Category Archives: Regional
We All Scream
There’s an ice cream truck that rolls through our neighborhood at a speed that makes it impossible to catch if we’re inside or the back yard. We’ve pretty much given up on it. There’s a man who walks through our neighborhood with a cart and a bell, whom we usually can reach in time. But yesterday we didn’t dash out at the first sound of his bell; by the time we did, he was well down the street — beyond shouting distance. Bean was sad. We drove around a few minutes to see if we could find him (my suggestion, I thought we’d succeed). When we couldn’t find him, Bean dealt with her sadness by suggesting we make a stop sign for the ice cream guys. She painted the sign (including the edge) and I painted the words:
Now we’d best be ready to follow through!
‘Tis the season for daisies… At the park yesterday, Bean ran up to me with both hands overflowing. I love being a mother!
Meet Gaia
My husband’s gift to me today, a “Fjellheim” Japanese Maple! I’ve named it Gaia — mother. We bought it locally, and I’m so happy with it! From this:
To this:
We’ve got much more planting to do, but first we needed to position the tree. This is the north side of the house, and most of the year it gets no direct sunlight.
Surging Wants
Lately we’ve been tending our garden, literally. A year ago we were marching through the process of house inspections and appraisals in order to get the house. When we moved in late May, the early year growing season was well under way. (We pretty much have a year-round growing season, though.) I planted wildflower seeds in the back yard, and while these were a success, when they died in the fall the garden was barren except for weeds. Speaking of which, they grow prolifically! I can’t keep up.
So I’ve been planting plants, bulbs, and seeds with Bean. We’ve planted rosemary, basil, oregano, and thyme, as well as lavender and jasmine. I’ve also planted Lily of the Valley bulbs, Asiatic Lily bulbs, and a Bleeding Heart bulb. As for seeds, Bean and I sowed plenty: pansies, poppies, zinnias, daisies, and sunflowers, as well as some wildflower mix. We’ll see how well this all grows.
The challenge comes when I surf the internet researching plants and garden planning. There are so, so many sites with lovely plants for sale. I want them all, even though I haven’t the space for them. I also want trellises, a raised bed for vegetables, and on and on.
I must remember this is all a process done in stages. We have various spots of our land than need different major bits of work. We also plan to re-do the back patio and put up a shade awning, and before I start planting around those spaces I need to leave room for the mess and see how the awning affects light near the house. The front of the house also has a couple spots needing major attention, as well as the west side of the house, which is compacted soil and rock from where it used to store the previous owner’s trailer. All in good time. We replaced the fence on the west side; it looks nice, and we had a four-foot gate installed as well, which is a boon for lugging supplies to and fro.
It was so wonderful to spend the weekend outside doing all this. Bean loves it too. My dream of giving her a place to dig in the dirt came true. She also met some snails, which she is not shy about carrying around and playing with. Unfortunately one met its demise at her hands. While she played with it (“he” was her pet), the shell cracked. So she tried to help it move into a new shell (we have a basket of small seashells outside). I explained to her this wasn’t like a hermit crab; he couldn’t just move out and in. But — while I didn’t witness this — I think she tried to help it move into a small seashell, and in the process it got squished. I heard her lament that her friend “went away.” She was sad, but not for long. Our garden does not lack for those creatures.
Since we spent most of the weekend outside, the poor house needs attention. Now I want a magic broom to sweep, and a magic vacuum, and dishwasher fairies. Or at the least a maid service! But alas, I’ll need to take up these tasks myself. I will do so, gratefully.
Itchy and Scratchy
I had my surgery Friday. My good neighbor watched Bean all day, and Hub took care of me at the SurgiCenter. PAMF staff continue to provide excellent care. I have relatively little pain, though the 2-inch scar and the deflated area of my breast makes me a little squeamish when I look at it. So I mostly don’t.
I’ll know the results next Friday.
It’s been a slow-mo weekend. I’m starting to feel the urge to scratch where the incision was, so healing has begun.
I’ve been nursing Bean through a cold this week, and watching with concern about the disaster in Japan.
Onward.
HaHaHa [Choke]
Pristine
The climate here is a Mediterranean one, which means near-idyllic conditions. So when weather happens, it becomes a Big Deal. For the past few days a “huge” Arctic storm was destined to come down from Canada. Stop the presses! Cover your water pipes! It might get into the upper 20s! And IT MIGHT SNOW!!!! OMG, OMG, OMG! The forecasters were in a frenzy. And we were a little excited too, thinking Bean might have an introduction to a few flakes, and that if it really snowed, we could drive toward the Santa Cruz mountains for more.
On Friday, rain gusted through and the winds blew it sideways. It made an attempt at being the big bad wolf, but frankly I’ve seen worse. Later in the day, the clouds parted, the sun beamed, and the forecasters adjusted their expectations. It was to come overnight Saturday. Well, I woke up this morning and took a nice walk. And this is what I saw from the top of La Colina Park (a park near us). The series of photos you see are a 360 panorama. Then there will be some other photos. All of this I submit as evidence that the weather forecasters need to go back to school!
All That Was Missing Was Incense
I’ve got to hand it to Palo Alto Medical Foundation. Almost every encounter I have with them is an interaction of efficiency and compassion, from the desk staff to the doctors. Today I had a stereotactic breast biopsy. That’s where you climb onto a table that’s a cross between a massage table and an auto shop lift, and your breast hangs through a hole, and they put a needle in to pull out suspicious tissue for testing. It’s not a Big Deal, but it’s not how I’d prefer to spend an afternoon, either.
But it was more pleasant than I expected. I checked in 15 minutes early as required. I was seen within 5 minutes, whisked back to a changing room, given a terrycloth robe, and told to wait in a little room chock full of magazines. Shortly I was ushered into the biopsy room.
The room was softly lit overhead (not the interrogation lighting common to such places). There was a 24×36″ photo of a sunset on the Marin Headlands to gaze at. And soft, new-agey music provided background ambiance. If there had been hot towels, aromatherapy, and chimes, I might have fallen asleep. (Not really.) The staff were caring. The physician made a point of talking to me before the procedure about what was coming and held my hand while she did so. The nurse periodically put her hand on my back. At one point I even closed my eyes. Aside from a sting when they put the local anesthesia in, and a little bit of tugging, I felt no sensation. They frequently asked how I was doing. I joked that with a three-year-old at home, it was actually a bit nice to lie still for awhile.
It was over in an hour. They were happy with the sample. They got 99% of the calcifications out and put a teeny titanium marker in the spot in case it turns out to be cancerous and they need to go back. It’s all over except for the results, which unfortunately take time. The earliest I will hear about it is next Thursday, the 17th. I’m a little sore and bruised, but it’s nothing compared to other medical interventions I’ve had.
Until then, I simply don’t have enough information, so I’m not traipsing down any “what if” paths. Yes, I’m a little tense about the unknown, but not in a way that’s ruining the present.
NPR Rap
Some unknown guy created a rap tribute to NPR and other public radio stations. Genuine pleasure. Reminds me to renew my membership!! If embed doesn’t work, here’s a link: NPR Rap.
On the Corner of Sunset and Life
Labor Day Anthem
This song gives me chills every time I hear it. Before I met my husband, I lived on the edge this song describes. (We are incredibly fortunate and grateful for that.) I also used to work with (i.e., provide social services to) people whose lives were rife with the challenges that he sings about. And there is a blogger I know and admire who works and serves people in the situations he sings about and somehow keeps her sanity. This is for all of them and for her. (If the video doesn’t show and play for you, click this link to see it.) Turn up the volume, close your eyes, and really listen. Then, if you can, do something to help somebody, somewhere. Here are a couple of places to start:
From Our Garden
The first week of June, Bean and I planted seeds, a heritage seed package stating it was designed to attract butterflies and hummingbirds. We have a lot of hummingbirds around. I haven’t seen many butterflies, but this is the first year we’ve planted. Tonight Bean and I picked some flowers, and here they are. (Oddly, our “Morning Glorias” have not bloomed. They’ve grown robust green leaves and vines, but no flower buds.)
Inspiration
The moon followed me home tonight
kissing me with her brilliant light
wishing sweet dreams for my sleepy head
then tucked me gently into bed.
——
It’s a beautiful night, with a waning full moon. The heatwave has broken. A breeze blows. Lately we’ve been reading The Rainbabies, which features the beautiful Moon. (And it has an unexpected sweetness for me because the main characters are an older couple who dearly long for a child, and are given the miracle of that gift.)
Thus a small poem!
A Morning Outing
Yesterday on a neighborhood walk, Bean told me, “I want to show you the world, Mommy. The wonderful world!” She does, every day!
We live so far away from the din and havoc the comes with living in an urban area like Silicon Valley. About five miles from our home is the entrance to the Santa Teresa County Park. (There’s a trailhead about a mile from our house, but I went to the main part this time.) We see the hills from our home, so today I took Bean for a little hike. We wanted to see what nature had to offer.
Summer in California is the season of drought, dust, and death. The grasses turn “golden” (i.e., tinderbox dry and brown), and there is no rain for about five months. It is certainly not California at its prettiest. (I’m partial to the emerald green hills of the rainy season.) Here’s an example of the “hills of gold”:
And the poor parched ground:
Nevertheless, nature knowns no season. It always exists. It’s always interesting. So we headed out on a trail…
Even during summer, flowers manage to bloom.
The view from on high is expansive!
But we also had to keep our eyes sharp for other things.
Looking around reveals interesting shapes…
And glimpses of a bird soaring high in the sky (that teeny dot in the blue is not dust on your screen!).
Then we were treated to a surprise! A turkey vulture perched on a dead tree, I guess airing its wings. It sat still for several minutes like this!
Once it flew away, we returned our attention to the path.
We found a branch covered with lichen. Such interesting colors and textures!
And we also found some pinecones and hardened pine tree sap. We brought the rock of resin home for later exploration and research.
At the end of our walk, we ate a snack at a picnic table. On the way home, I asked Bean what her favorite part of our adventure was. She said it was “sitting and looking.” It was so quiet and breezy there. A lovely Monday morning.
Frugal Toy
Yesterday Bean and I went to Happy Hollow Park and Zoo. We had lots of fun with the rides. One of the featured activities was Cardboard City. Visitors are encouraged to play and create a city of cardboard based on imagination in the Meadow, using old boxes and paint. And this gave me an idea.
I’ve been wanting to give Bean a barn to play with, but many of them are outrageously expensive. So I found an old box and, with a little cutting and taping and painting, ended up with a barn. Bean helped me paint the barn red. Then I took over with the roof and trim, and collaged the inside of the box. I’ve had the paint, paper, and tape on hand for years, so for a very minimal cost we have a toy barn! It may not last as long as a wooden one, but we had fun making it (especially me). Now all we need are some farm animals!
Blazing By
The summer speeds along. It’s astonishing! Our transition into the new home continues. Bean, especially, has difficulty. Her sleeping habits are regular again. However, she has zero interest in being away from me, ever (even for me to be in another part of the house sometimes), and she is especially rejecting of others. It started right after the move, with her Grandma Kay. Whenever Kay would come near her, she told grandma to go into another room, to go away.
One of my sisters visited later in June, and Bean was pretty horrible to her too. After the first day in which Bean was shy and sweet, she would raise her voice to her aunt. “Don’t say words!” “Go away!” “Don’t look at me!” These demands were accompanied by screeching. (Bean didn’t have the same feelings toward her uncle, however; he was just nifty.) We took the opportunity to admonish her about being kind, but the bottom line is that in this new house and new life there was an unfamiliar person taking a lot of my attention and time, and this just didn’t sit well with Bean.
A couple weeks ago a friend of mine came to visit, and Bean behaved similarly. She warmed up to my friend a bit, but would bluntly state her wishes too, such as “Don’t talk to me.” Then last Friday, when her beloved babysitter came for the first time in a month, she decided the babysitter was no good either. After about 45 minutes with A__, she didn’t want the babysitter to sit in the same room, or touch any of her toys, and so on. I got a call about an hour before I was due home; A__ informing me what was happening to let me know. I decided that as long as Bean was safe (not self-injuring or something), that I would come home at my planned time. When I came home she’d been crying and wailing for me and clung to me.
She’s even been mean to her father in this way. And increasingly, Bean says, “I want to go back to the old house.” I conclude that this has been a seismic shift for her. If she can be taken away from her home, then what about Mommy? What if Mommy is taken away, or she is taken from Mommy? Many days she doesn’t want to go anywhere, sometimes not even outside. Not to the grocery store, the park, for a walk. Pushing her is a catalyst for a tantrum; then everyone is miserable, so what’s the point?
And the tantrums! Oh, they have become ever more voluble and frequent.
However, it’s not all negative stuff. Bean is as sweet, playful, and loving as ever — even more so. So much change in a little life…
We’ve done a few activities, such as:
Berry picking in June!
“Washing” windows:
Baking cakes (and licking batter off the beater):
Having backyard picnics:
Enjoying the sprinkler:
And making stuff, like sand clay and painting birdhouses! Bean made the bowl with a little shaping help from me, and I made the candle holder.
I painted the white coat and Bean added her flair:
Onward to August!
On A Clear Day…
Steps Forward
Bean moves steadily from toddlerhood toward childhood.
Yesterday in the bath, Bean said she was performing a science experiment. She has Munchkin foam letters, and they stick to surfaces in the tub and the stall walls. So she took the letter J and put it on her head to see if it would stick. She shook her head, and it fell off. She did this four or five times. Then she said, “Let’s see if the letter L will stick.” She repeated the procedure, and indeed it did! (My occasional guilt for allowing her to watch television in the early morning was alleviated in this moment. She learns a great deal from her favorite shows: Caillou, Curious George, Olivia, Word World, Sesame Street, Between the Lions, and My Friends Tigger & Pooh.)
At the same time, she still needs lots of cuddling and mothering and fathering. Her sleep remains disrupted from the move. I added a makeshift curtain to her window to help darken the room a bit. The challenge, it seems, is that on days she naps she has difficulty falling asleep, and on days she does not nap she falls asleep early and well but it is a long, cranky, and sometimes tearful afternoon and evening until then!
Last night I rocked and sang to her, and she was all wiggles and squirms. After 25 minutes of this I told her it was time to go to sleep and I put her in the crib. She protested with a whine. I covered her and said nighty-night. Then I left. The whining continued. I did some chores in the kitchen as the whining progressed to crying. First it was protest crying — not entirely real, not fully committed — but after half an hour she was crying at full bore.
I went to her and asked, “What’s with all this llama drama?” (See books by Anna Dewdney for reference.) She asked for a tissue to blow her nose, and then I rocked her. As she lay in my arms with a tear-streaked face, she spoke in a tremulous voice. She said she’d felt alone and that she was crying like a baby so I would come back. She said she had a boo-boo on her knee, and so I kissed it. Then she explained how the Kleenex helps get the boogers out of her nose.
So I rocked and sang again, for about 25 minutes, and she snuggled against me and fell asleep. At 9:20 I put her down in the crib, and she slept until 6:45 (earlier than usual, but much better than 5:20 a.m.!)
In a few moments we’ll head out to a farm and pick berries with new friends from down the street. The boys are 7 and 5, and they love Bean and (so far) play well with her. I notice that Bean really plays well with older kids who understand turn-taking and sharing. She doesn’t follow game rules very well yet and isn’t as organized, but she has more fun with kids who don’t grab toys from her and understand when she “uses her words.” The extra benefit of these new friends is that I really really like their mom!
Home!
The move went smoothly. It rained, which is unusual for this area this time of year, but it wasn’t bad. We did not have a home phone or Internet connection for more than a week, however. I didn’t have withdrawals; instead I used that time to unpack, and except for a about 10 boxes of books and decorative items, we are entirely settled in! Below is a photo of Bean enjoying a corner of our back yard under the small cherry tree (which is producing cherries!), and a photo of my view from the kitchen window in the morning.
More writing to come at some point soon.
The Big Move
Packing is nearly complete. What remains are some toys, dishes, the pantry, and the fridge. And a few other miscellaneous items.
Tuesday we move. And start to settle in. And return to the old house to take a few stray items and clean a bit. We return the keys on May 31, and this chapter of our lives is closed.
This home has been Bean’s home. When we first made the offer, she said she didn’t want a new house. She liked this one. But over the past two months, with repeated trips to the new home, she has gradually warmed up to the possibility. Husband painted her room lavender, and I made a cozy place in the cubby hole under the stairs, and she has discovered the wonderful possibilities of the back yard. So she has been remarkably laid-back as boxes pile up around her, and all that is familiar disappears. She was even eager to take her decorations off her bedroom walls.
I’m running on empty, but I feel good about how everything is going. Next time I write a post, it’ll be in the new home!


























































