Today’s craft (since Bean is home from preschool because she’s sick):
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Open The Heavens
I’m excited. The rains are coming.
Now, you have to live in California to appreciate my enthusiasm. The weather is subtle here. When I speak of rains, I don’t mean the hair-raising, eardrum-splitting drama of a Texas thunderstorm. (Oh, how I miss those!) Even my hometown, Syracuse, is capable of stormy antics. No, the rains here are often mists or light drizzles, though it has been known to pour heavily and steadily here (spring of 2006 was an example). Rare is the thunderstorm here. About a month ago there was a thunderstorm in the middle of the night, the first in perhaps a year — nothing to write about, but still one that woke me — and it generated many comments on among my Facebook and Twitter companions. It was kind of pathetic, and therefore funny.
Here the earth receives no precipitation of substance for about six months each year during the hottest season. The ground shrivels and shrinks up like an O-cello sponge that escaped its packaging. Bean would not nap today, not even in my arms, so I took a long country ramble. As I drove through the hills, I noticed the boar-bristle landscape, the grass stiff and scratchy and looking as though it ached for rain. The stoic trees clutched their leaves, desperate for the the cleansing shower of drops. The air was a gauze curtain of dust and smog. We are parched and poised. And on Tuesday, the meteorologists say, we will be drenched and quenched.
From Weather Underground:
Heavy rain and potentially high winds expected to accompany a significant storm expected to hit late Monday into early Wednesday of next week…
A potent storm system… especially for October… will move into central and northern California beginning late Monday and continuing through Wednesday morning. This will be a very dramatic change from the typical late Summer pattern the area has been experiencing. The origins of this storm Stem from a western Pacific typhoon named Melor that hit Japan a few days ago.
Rain and increasing wind will begin in the North Bay Monday afternoon… spreading south Monday night. Tuesday and Tuesday night should see the heaviest rainfall and the strongest winds. Rainfall amounts could reach 1 to 3 inches along the coast and in the valleys. In the hills… rainfall amounts will range from 2 to 4 inches in the North Bay… with 3 to 6 inches in the Santa Cruz and northern Santa Lucia Range near Big Sur. Local amounts up to 8 to 10 inches are possible in the Santa Cruz and Santa Lucia Range. Winds Tuesday and Tuesday night will increase to 20 to 40 mph along the coast and in the hills. Gusts to 60 mph are possible in these areas. Strong southerly winds may develop in the northern Salinas valley and southern Santa Clara valleys with this storm.
Potential impacts from this storm system include:
- possible mud and debris flows from burn scars from last Summer and this Summer. Persons living near these areas should pay close attention to updated forecasts.
- Urban and Small Stream flooding and ponding on roadways and underpasses.
- High winds that can down trees and thus power lines producing power outages.
- Hazardous driving conditions due to very slippery Road conditions from a buildup of oil over the Summer and debris such as leaves accumulating on the roads.
If you want me, you’ll find me inside with my face pressed up against the window, tracking the raindrops as they wander down the window and watching the trees dance. If Bean is over her cold, you’ll probably find us outside in rain gear pouncing on puddles. The crumpled hills will soon turn emerald green. W00t!!
A First Step
Husband and I are homebodies. We aren’t big travelers, and we particularly don’t like to fly. We haven’t flown since 2006. In fact, we have never flown anywhere with Bean, and have only had one overnight away from home with her — in Monterey, in August. She was not the type of baby who slept in the stroller if I hauled her all over town. If she was out, she was awake and stimulated. She is inquisitive and curious.
We think about flying east to see my folks, but the length of the trip and the three-hour time shift daunts us. So we decided to try a shorter jaunt, to see Bean’s aunt and uncle in Austin at Thanksgiving.
We just booked our tickets. We actually found flights that were reasonably priced, although we’ll still have a layover in Colorado, and it will be a long day of travel. But it’s done! So this will be an adventure.
So now I need to know: What do you pack for a two-year-old on the plane (total travel including layover is 9 hours) that doesn’t offer meal service either? What do you pack for an eight-day stay somewhere? Any suggestions are welcome.
Creative Frugality
Once you have a child (or children), you find yourself going to a lot of birthday parties. Buying gifts can get pricey, so I want to conserve a bit where I can. Starting with 2010, to keep track of who gets what and keep from going insane, I’ve decided to select a “book of the year” as the birthday gift for every child we celebrate. I’ll choose a book that is less common than some so as to (hopefully) not give a duplicate. Then I’ll buy the books in bulk and save some money. I like that idea very much.
When I was pregnant, I bought a huge roll of butcher paper for future crafts. I assumed I’d be going through a lot of paper in the next five years. I was right. Now, what does a mom do with the swaths of painted and colored paper? I decided they would make excellent gift wrap, thus saving me money on wrapping paper. Until Bean is actually painting a picture of something that she might want to keep, we’ll make use of her creative endeavors this way. (Except for Christmas, in part because I have a ton of holiday paper, and in part because I don’t want Bean to receive gifts in paper she wrapped; it seems a little Oliver Twist to me.) Here’s a photo of just-wrapped gifts:
Intense
OMG, life with Bean has been intense the past week. It’s as though we’ve gone into overdrive. Right after her aunt left, she began clinging to me more, wanting just to hug and be held. After preschool (she loves it) one day we experienced a tantrum that shook the rafters. She had not eaten much snack because she didn’t like it, and in the car she refused her standard travel snack, so by the time we got home she was so hungry she was over the edge. To make her lunch required having her stand next to me screaming to be held and hugged (and I was hungry too!). It got to the point where she rolled on the floor kicking. In the end, she ended up clutching me with her head on my shoulder and fed herself from her plate at the dining table. She says, “Mommy hugging Bean.”
At the same time, she is openly defying rules. She puts something in her mouth that she knows she shouldn’t. I remind her gently. She takes it out, puts it back in, looking at me. I warn her that if she can’t keep the item out of her mouth I’ll take it away. She takes it out of her mouth, only to put it back in a few moments later — she’s either forgotten or is resisting. So I then take it away, and she cries. She says, “You took it awaaaaaaaaay!!!!!” And I tell her yes, I did, and she can have it back later when she can keep it out of her mouth. Then she says, “Hug! I need a hug!” and throws herself in my arms.
She is also asking, “What is the [fill in the blank] doing?” She will ask this question about the same item over and over, e.g., “What is the sandwich doing?” (I answer with several variations that it’s sitting on the counter thinking how delicious it is, wishing for Bean to eat it.) She also asks, “What is a [fill in the blank]?” “What is a duck?” (A bird that goes quack and swims in water.) “What is a baby duck?” (A Mommy duck’s baby that goes quack.) “What is a helicopter?” (A machine that flies with blades that spin on top and its tail.) “What is a cat?” (A furry animal that has four legs and says meow.) The questions are endless. And if there are two things, the larger one is the Mommy: Mommy stick and baby stick, Mommy fork and baby fork, etc. Multiple items are usually Mommy, Daddy, baby, and Grandma/Grandpa/Aunt/Uncle/sister (no brother, go figure).
She woke an hour into nap yesterday crying for me at the top of her lungs. I went in and scooped her up. Her diaper had leaked urine onto the bed and the diaper was soaked, but she was glued to me. So I held and rocked with her for 45 minutes. She would look around the room at the decorations on her wall, and then she would look at me, staring in my eyes. I sense a new level of consciousness in her. I talked quietly to her, stroked her head, told her she was my Hugabug and that I love her, until she said, “Let’s go downstairs.” And yes, I had pee-pee pants. But the cuddle was worth it.
So what is happening, I sense, is that she is in turmoil. She wants to do things on her own and is testing where the limits are, and at the same time she’s terrified and needs/wants me for security. I understand this, but boy, living it hour after hour, day after day, can be draining. And her nap has moved to 2:00-4:00 p.m., which makes the mornings very long. By the end of the day (bedtime at 8:30), I feel completely used up — a mere shell of myself. I find myself going to bed at 9:30 or 10:00, and the to-do list (of things I want to do and things that need doing) grows longer; the rate at which things get crossed off is slower than the rate of addition.
And we are approaching the season of increasing darkness, a time that pulls me not toward depression but toward hibernation mode. I’m glad that there are several upcoming holidays to focus energies toward.
Not Too Spooky
Halloween is a fun time of year, but for very little kids I think avoiding realistic ghoulishness is a good idea. They aren’t capable of discerning between real and pretend. So this year we’ll focus on construction paper pumpkins, bats, and maybe a few ghosts. I drew and cut out the bats, and Bean squirted glue and smeared it and then sprinkled glitter. I like how they curled up as they dried; the look more three-dimensional and interesting to me.
It Was So Fun We Did It Again
What A Visit!
It was a great visit with Aunt LR. We went to the Monterey Bay Aquarium, the beach, Big Basin State Park, music class, gym class, and the park. Aunt LR got lots of reading-to-Bean time, and on Wednesday evening she babysat while Husband and I went to a school meeting. Bean had no separation problems, played with Playdoh, and went to bed serenely. They really bonded!
Today Bean is clingy to me. I took my sister to the airport last night right before Bean’s bedtime, and I think Bean was scared I wouldn’t come back. All morning she wanted me in sight. She has asked where her aunt is.
It was a wonderful visit.
Squishy Fun
In one of her High Five issues, the suggested craft is to put shaving cream and food coloring in a pan. The result is colorful, messy fun. Bean smells like Barbasol shaving cream and had a lot of fun this morning.
Fall Fingerprint Craft Tree
Bean and I did a craft suggested at the All Kids Network. Because I couldn’t get her to splay her fingers when I traced her hand, the branches were a bit lumped together. She has the tiniest hands and arms.
I set up the picture by gluing construction paper to the white paper and then clipped that to her easel. I put a small dab of red, orange, and yellow paint on a paper plate, and she went to town. She started out doing the fingerprint (a dab here and there) and then her exuberance took over. She said she was painting leaves, and then she swooped her hands up and said, “I’m painting a girl. She likes the leaves.”
Great messy outdoor fun on a hot (95 degree) afternoon!
Around
On Beginnings
Someone recently said to me that they haven’t heard much about our house search and assumed we’d stopped trying. That’s not the case, actually. But trying to find and buy the right house is, I’m finding, very similar to my experience of trying to get pregnant. The first time I was pregnant I told everyone right away, and then I lost the baby. The second time I got pregnant I also miscarried, and I hadn’t told anyone yet because I really didn’t want to go through the explanation. The third time we kept our mouths sealed until we were well into the second trimester and then announced our news, and later joyfully announced Bean’s debut.
And so it goes with house-hunting. Husband still looks and goes to open houses. He researches MLS listings. If there is one he visits that looks viable, he will ask me to go see it too. We have been looking for a home to buy for almost nine months. Maybe we’ll find one; maybe not. It just gets tiresome to talk about after awhile. I’ll not likely talk about the search until we’ve made an offer that is accepted. In fact, because Things Can Go Wrong, I’ll probably keep my mouth shut until we sign all the papers.
In other news, though, Bean and I were on a waiting list for a nursery school that a friend will attend. The school follows the philosophy espoused by the National Institute for Play (who knew there was such a thing?). I was content to wait and assumed I would not hear until next year. But on Labor Day I got a call that a spot opened, and I accepted. Bean and I will attend together on Wednesday mornings starting this week. I think she will enjoy it a lot.
We will have three busy mornings in a row, which concerns me a little because it can feel intense, but I think it’ll be okay. Tuesday is Music Together, Wednesday is school, and Thursday will be Little Gym. Other mornings and afternoons will be for parks, playdates, errands, and fun stuff at home, such as the painting we did today.
An Autumn Leaf Craft
Today is cloudy and cool — perfect weather to make a small craft. Bean and I made this one together.
Outrageous
A woman was shopping in a Walmart with a screaming child. A man approached and threatened the mother to shut her child up or he’d do it. A few moments later, the toddler was still screaming, and the man returned and slapped the child about four times. The incident makes me see red. I am careful to go out with my toddler only when she is well, fed, and rested, but sometimes toddlers throw tantrums regardless. They are learning and growing and have primitive emotional regulation. I guess I am lucky it didn’t happen to us. We just got a dirty look. And I got out of there, apologizing to everyone near us, just as soon as I’d completed our transaction.
Give Cheeks A Chance!
I’m spreading the word about a local diaper drive. If you live in the Bay Area, take note!
Give Cheeks a Chance!
Kickoff @ Baby Buzz Café
09.09.09 from 3 – 6 PM
Our Goal
Help us collect over 3000 diapers on September 9th so that we can break our single-day San Jose collection record!
Where Is It?
1314 Lincoln Avenue
San Jose, CA 95126
Questions?
Call 408.885.9870
http://www.babybuzzcafe.com
Gift bags for the first 30 people to arrive with diapers! Goodies include products from: Little Lamb Design, Baby Legs, Sketchers Kids, Puma Kids, OSH eco shopping bags & more!
Plus TWO GRAND PRIZE gift baskets!
Can’t make it to the event? Please contact us if you’d like to host a diaper drive during September for one of our local-area partners. Email: info@helpamotherout.org.
What is Help a Mother Out?
To learn more about the Help a Mother Out Campaign, find us on the web at: http://www.helpamotherout.org.
The Joy of Discovery
Today we took Bean to the Children’s Discovery Museum, and she had a grand time. She played with water, climbed ramps, painted, crawled, turned things over, looked in mirrors, climbed inside boxes, danced, painted her face, and generally filled her brain through all her senses. We bought a family membership, and we’ll be going frequently from now on, especially with rainy season coming.
Bean likes to play the beep-beep nose game (sometimes Mommy just needs to have her nose beeped). She’s getting more vocal about things she doesn’t want; “Mommy won’t make that noise!” She named her stuffed doggie animals (previously known as black doggy and brown doggy) “Pepper” and “Puff” respectively. Everything is mommy, daddy, and baby: buses, pieces of food, stuffed animal toys, cutlery. She needs everything to be in threes like that. She sings many songs, some of which she hasn’t heard in months (the persistence of memory!) and often is nearly on-key.
Bean is two weeks away from turning two, and it’s been an amazing journey so far. I’ll be posting more in the future about the fun projects we do and the resources and ideas I discover on the way.
Moment By Moment
Home Again
Our first overnight trip was a success, although we decided to make it only one night instead of two. Bean napped on the way to Monterey, so that when we arrived we could play. We drove to Pacific Grove and ate lunch at Lover’s Point Park. There we encountered a huge clan of unusually tame, fat, aggressive squirrels accustomed to being fed (and who competed with nearly as tame seagulls). Bean climbed the jumbled rocks on the point and laughed at the squirrels. Then we checked into our motel back in Monterey.
Next we visited Dennis the Menace park, which was a blast. Her very favorite part was a long slide made of roller bars. I didn’t bring the camera with me, unfortunately. I went with her a few times, and she laughed her belly laugh. She then went by herself over and over again, giggling on each trip down, until she began to get impatient about waiting her turn (a sign she was tired). She also enjoyed running back and forth over a hanging wood bridge (the kind you see suspended over steep ravines in jungles). Dinner followed this, and then a short trip to the beach to jump in waves, followed by the bedtime routine. It had been an adventurous day.
Bean had difficulty falling asleep; it took 90 minutes, and she finally let go at 9:30. It was her first time ever in a big bed (the room was too small for the pack-and-play). I slept lightly next to her, waking several times. She woke at 5:15 a.m., and so did I. She was running on only eight hours of sleep, which was clearly not enough. She devoured pancakes and ham at Denny’s.
We decided that going home after the aquarium would be our wisest course of action. I was exhausted, as was she, and Husband was tired too. So we took her to the “zoo for fish” as we called it, and she was entranced. We had a grand visit, until she couldn’t take it anymore; around 1 p.m. she had her first spectacular public tantrum, complete with hitting me in the face, flailing arms, and running away. Since we’d seen all we wanted to see, we headed for the car. Husband carried her, a sack of wailing and tears, to the car, where she fell asleep as soon as we drove out of the parking garage. Two hours later she awoke cheerfully refreshed when we pulled into our garage at home.
It was a general success. We could have done another night, but we didn’t want to push it. I had (and still have) a sore throat, which I believe might be the cold she has recently had (or it could be particulate matter from forest fire smoke). Are we ready for a long haul trip by plane across the country? We think not just yet.
Away We Go
Bean is still coughing and sneezing some, but she is restless and cheerful, so we are heading out on our little trip. I hope we’ve packed well enough: clothes, books (for us all), snacks, stuffed animals. I wonder if she’ll sleep in the pack-and-play, which she hated to even be in to play? I wonder if she and I will end up sleeping together in the motel bed? I wonder if any of us will get any sleep? Should be interesting.
Today we’ll go to the Dennis the Menace park. Tomorrow the aquarium. Saturday morning we’ll do a little drive and head home. Here we go!
Inauspicious Beginning
Husband is taking time off work. We were planning to go to Monterey for a couple nights — our first away from home with Bean — this week. Except Bean has a nasty cold with a cough, sneezes, and so forth.
Also, the water hose to our refrigerator broke and leaked everywhere last night. Though we rent the house, we own the fridge, so it’s our problem to fix.
And I successfully cast on my first sock, only to find I’d dropped a stitch in the first row. So this will require frogging and starting over.
None of these are huge crises, but they do set a tone for the vacation that we didn’t really want (but that’s not permanent). We may still decide to take our little trip, depending on how she seems tomorrow. She’s mostly cheerful and active, just with symptoms. We’ll have a repair guy come to fix the fridge. And casting on the sock again will be good practice for working with toothpick needles.















