Category Archives: Social Science

Not Sure Whether To Be Discouraged Or Amused

Apparently this is a rapidly growing problem. Although it doesn’t actually put one at risk of death, such behavior can imperil a person in other ways.

Drunk dialing has grown so rampant now that, just as abuses of cellphones prompted a new code of ethics for public conversations and new laws for road travel, it has elicited various tips and cures. A Web site called SlackerTown.com offers a phone number that people can call to leave their drunk-dialed message, which is recorded and placed on the Web for everyone’s listening pleasure.

–Carol Lee, The New Social Etiquette: Friends Don’t Let Friends Dial Drunk, The New York Times

I suppose this is preferable to calling one’s boss at 3 a.m. to tell her what you think of her management style, but really, wouldn’t not over-imbibing be a better solution?

Humans. [shakes head]

Once Upon A Time in Dooceland

Heather tells a great story. Below is just the beginning:

A couple days ago I was coming home from the grocery store when I stopped at a four-way intersection. The guy headed in my direction ran the stop sign, and the woman to my right whose turn it was to go entered the middle of the intersection, her hackles SO OUT OF CONTROL, and honked her horn for about 30 seconds straight. Her face got all distorted, and she looked at me and at the other car waiting across from me like, “Can you believe he just did that? HUH? HUH? CAN YOU? I CANNOT BELIEVE IT, so I’m going to sit here for a few more seconds and honk my horn so that the whole world can tune in to my disbelief.”

At first I thought it was funny — the horn-honking woman, not the guy who ran the stop sign because that’s never funny. He could have hurt if not killed someone, but he didn’t and he was at least a half a mile away at this point. There wasn’t much we could do about his, ahem, transgression against our legal system, but the honking woman WANTED HIM TO PAY. After about the 16th or 17th second of the honk the funny part about it turned into sadness. Why was she so angry, that poor woman WHOM I WAS GOING TO STRANGLE WITH MY BARE HANDS IF SHE DIDN’T GO ALREADY?

The scene finally ended, no one run over or strangled, and I looked at Leta in the rear view mirror and said, “Some people, Leta. They live life like an Internet troll, wanting everyone to know how angry they are about someone else while they themselves ARE BLOCKING TRAFFIC.” And I was proud of myself, proud for coming up with that obviously brilliant metaphor, proud that I had imparted that wisdom to my daughter even if she wasn’t paying attention and was eating her shoelace, her foot pulled up to her face.

Dooce

Inundated

I have been completely engulfed by my new job as an academic coach and supervisor. The job is an intense learning experience; it’s challenging all my conceptions of control and chaos. I like some of it, and some parts I dislike intensely. This is a good sign.

What this means, though, is I have been struggling to keep up with the rest of my life. Reading for pleasure is on hold at the moment. Exercise, however, is not. Writing is also on hold. I believe this program, once it’s running on all cylinders, will leave me time for these other activities.

On a more personal note, my future father-in-law continues to fight for his life. His is a grim battle. The type of cancer he has is rare and insidious. So when I’m not working, or doing life tasks such as buying food and going to the bank, my energy is absorbed by this concern.

One quick note, however. If you’re looking for a compendium of worthwhile blogs, check out DeepBlog. They’ve got quite a smorgasbord of good links, and I’m honored to one among them. They write:

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Enjoy!

Some Things Blogging Does

Euan from The Obvious? provided a peek into a post that asks the question, “What happens when you replace the word blogging with thinking?”

Many bloggers (me included) have raved in our blogs how the simple act of writing a blog does great things to your life and your mind. ThereÂ’s also some big criticisms of blogging being aired in various places too. I’d like to talk about 6 benefits of blogging here and present some counters to the arguments that surround those benefits.

  • Blogging helps you to notice what you are noticing in the world and leads you to question why that is.
  • Blogging tests your commitment to what you believe your passions are.
  • Blogging expands your own and other people’s minds and ultimately contributes to the learning and development of society.
  • Blogging removes boundaries and traditional sources of power and introduces a new currency: your thoughts.
  • Blogging is about thinking, not necessarily journalism.
  • Blogs are the chaff not the wheat. What you post in your blog isn’t necessarily the most important thing, itÂ’s that you’ve done some thinking.

–Claire Chaundy, Organised Chaos

A further discussion of each point can be found at Claire’s blog by clicking on the link. Great stuff to ponder.

SpongeBob SwishyPants?

Oh, please.

SpongeBob – who appears on the children’s cable channel Nickelodeon – is seen as an icon for adult gay men in the US, apparently because he regularly holds hands with his sidekick Patrick.

His creators deny that he is gay, but he is not the first such character to cause controversy.

In 1999 conservatives claimed handbag-carrying Teletubby Tinky Winky, an import from the UK, was a bad role-model.

BBC news

Oh yes, let’s always label any type of affectionate physical expression between males as taboo so that we can continue to deprive them of a necessary and healthy form of human interaction by pathologizing it. And oh yes, if it’s not a briefcase or backpack, then it must be a purse and therefore a sign of transvestitism (a pastime not limited to gay men). Maybe we can allow a man to carry a diaper bag, but only with a special permit.

BBC news states “…conservatives say it sees the video as a cunning attempt to promote homosexuality.” Don’t those people have something more worthwhile and helpful to do? Such as fighting poverty? Promoting education for all? Wouldn’t that be a better way to “focus on the family?”

Democracy Is

I always love these nuggets I find over at Fatshadow:

Democracy is about finding a way to get all the voices in the room so that the conversation can be both expansive and inclusive. Democracy acknowledges the tension and seeks to govern not through the domination of a particular ideology but through the awareness that our institutions need to serve us all. Our institutions need to hold the tension and manage the more mundane process of how we spend our collective dollar.

Tish Parmely

She was reflecting on the amount of money spent on inaugural festivities, and how unseemly it is at any time for such amounts of money be spent when we are a country supposedly striving for egalitarian ideals.

Can It?

In an article from the UK publication, The Guardian, a report:

The New Yorker reported this week that the Pentagon has already sent special operations teams into Iran to locate possible nuclear weapons sites. The report by Seymour Hersh, a veteran investigative journalist, was played down by the White House and the Pentagon, with comments that stopped short of an outright denial.

However, there are denials coming from the Pentagon, as reported in Express India:

Pentagon’s spokesman Lawrence Dirita said in a statement that the article “is so riddled with errors of fundamental fact that the credibility of his (Hersh) entire piece is destroyed”. …However, the spokesman did not confirm or deny Hersh’s claim that the administration had authorised covert operations against the countries, located in West Asia and South Asia.

Considering all this, I have a question.

Don’t weep for the dead; weep for the brightness in the eyes which is dimmed, for the feeling of love which has withered before its time and for the weeds of hate and revenge which have inherited their place. Can a plant grow on salty soil? Can a nation grow on the soil of fire and sulphur, hate and revenge?

Natan Hofshi

Surprise!

Remember:

There is no surprise more magical than the surprise of being loved.

–Charles Morgan

When you look into a child’s eyes, think of this. And when you look into an adult’s eyes, imagine the child within. Now go to a mirror and look at yourself. That quote applies to you, too. Who loves you? Take a moment to ponder this. Somebody loves you and cares about your well-being and success. Somebody finds you endearing, notices your talents, accepts your quirks. Even if that somebody has died, the love they carried and gave lives yet. When you feel impoverished of love, try to remember this. Then turn around and remember this of all the people you meet — somebody loves them too. Look for the reasons why this might be. You’d be amazed at what you find, and how this affects your perspective of the human race.

The Nature Of Goodness

Writers would have it that heroes and good characters are less interesting than villains and pests because virtue is boring. I’ll agree that that’s often true in stories, or if you’re Dickens, and it may be that this chapter is doomed to fall short of rousing your passionate interest. But in real life, I have to say, I have found authentic goodness magnificent, muscular, tonic, as rare and grand as Yosemite’s El Capitan, a mountain whose magnitude stuns you further when you realize that it is a monolith, one whole, seamless rock. I find absolutely nothing boring about true goodness.

–June Sprigg, Simple Gifts: Lessons in Living from a Shaker Village

More Than Flinging A Coin

We are called to play the good Samaritan on life’s roadside. But one day we must come to see that the whole Jericho road must be transformed so that men and women will not be constantly beaten and robbed as they make their journey on life’s highway. True compassion is more than flinging a coin to a beggar; it is not haphazard and superficial. It comes to see that an edifice which produces beggars needs restructuring.

–Martin Luther King Jr.