I am moved to quote from Markham’s Behavioral Health, a blog I regularly read. David has had intense personal experience with grief, and something he said made an impression. So I’m sharing here, but I encourage you to read his entire post.

Grief is not something to avoid, or something to “work through” and then it will be all better. No, grief is something we have to sit with, accomodate ourselves to. It has moved in to stay and it will be with us all of our days so we might as well get used to it.

And I agree with George Bernard Shaw’s quote today that life does not cease to be funny when people die any more than it ceases to be serious when people laugh. I wonder how George came to understand that. He seems to me to be a very wise man.

May strength and solace accompany all those who grieve the death of loved ones.