It may be agreeable for certain people to live a retired life in a quiet place away from noise and disturbance. But it is certainly more praiseworthy and courageous to practice Buddhism living among your fellow beings, helping them and being of service to them.
–Walpola Sri Rahula
Category Archives: Humanities
Realization
I don’t use the word enlightenment because the term itself is very loaded. To many people it implies a kind of Big Bang after which you are eternally in a steady state called enlightenment. While in fact the actual experience is a kind of opening in spaciousness, here and now, which allows anything to come and go, with no resistance. It is not a state, it is just relaxing into a natural ease of being. It’s already here. When people use the word enlightenment, it implies some point in time that you hop into or it happens to you and then you are there for ever more … I don’t think this is a good way of thinking about it.
It is only in this profound relaxation into your simplest being — just being, just having tea, just talking, just seeing and hearing — is the treasure we’ve been searching for.
What I teach is realization, not meditation. In realization, you live in what is so-called meditation. You live in this sense of beingness, in wakeful, present awareness, which any good meditation practice worth its salt is trying to get to.
I’m suggesting that you recognize that that’s really all that’s going on anyway, and just hang out there. From that perspective, you don’t have to call it meditation, and we certainly don’t call it practice, because the very word ‘practice’ implies a goal, a future.
We’re speaking about that which is not in the future, there is no future. It is fully present right now and is always just here, just now. It’s a way of being — living as meditation, living as presence.
–Catherine Ingram
[via whiskey river]
Learn The All
Reverence the highest, have patience with the lowest. Let this day’s performance of the meanest duty be thy religion. Are the stars too distant, pick up the pebble that lies at thy feet, and from it learn the all.
–Margaret Fuller
Catch The Moment Of Grace
What is “grace?”
Grace
- Seemingly effortless beauty or charm of movement, form, or proportion.
- A characteristic or quality pleasing for its charm or refinement.
- A sense of fitness or propriety.
- A disposition to be generous or helpful; goodwill. Mercy; clemency.
- A favor rendered by one who need not do so; indulgence.
- A temporary immunity or exemption; a reprieve.
- Graces Greek & Roman Mythology. Three sister goddesses, known in Greek mythology as Aglaia, Euphrosyne, and Thalia, who dispense charm and beauty.
- Divine love and protection bestowed freely on people. The state of being protected or sanctified by the favor of God. An excellence or power granted by God.
- A short prayer of blessing or thanksgiving said before or after a meal.
- Grace Used with His, Her, or Your as a title and form of address for a duke, duchess, or archbishop.
- Music. An appoggiatura, trill, or other musical ornanment in the music of 16th and 17th century England.
There are days when I wonder why I take up space and consume resources. What good do I possibly do? I feel that no matter what effort I expend, it’s not enough. Sometimes I think too much about this, becoming absorbed with my ego. What I need at these times is a reminder that I matter, but not in the egocentric way. Rather, I need reminding that every day, the smallest action on my part has an impact, for good or ill, whether or not I know it. It is helpful at these times to recall as many situations as I can in which I participated with Creation toward a greater good. We are instruments of grace in this world, whether we demonstrate it with a kind deed, make a welcoming atmosphere for someone, forgive a wrong, or extend compassion in heart and action toward another.
The moment of grace comes to us in the dynamics of any situation we walk into. It is an opportunity that God sews into the fabric of a routine situation. It is a chance to do something creative, something helpful, something healing, something that makes one unmarked spot in the world better off for our having been there. We catch it if we are people of discernment.
–Lewis B. Smedes, A Pretty Good Person
Describe an incident (or more than one) when you were in the right place at the right time and the world was a better place because of what you did.
–taken from 100 Ways to Keep Your Soul Alive: Living Deeply and Fully Every Day
Aware Of The Miracle
Appreciation of life itself, becoming suddenly aware of the miracle of being alive, on this planet, can turn what we call ordinary life into a miracle.
–Dan Wakefield
Religious Creatures
Human beings are religious creatures because the are imaginative; they are so constituted that they are compelled to search for hidden meaning and to achieve an ecstasy that makes them feel fully alive.
–Karen Armstrong, Islam: A Short History
Feminine Intrigue
“Woman is the promise that cannot be kept,” said the poet Paul Claudel.
But does she know that? She — her sexuality, her voice and eyes and skin and hair — is the promise that we men make to ourselves hour after hour every day, every day of our lives. If she is not the secret of the universe, then there is none. To us she appears in the clandestine and burning center of the mind as the form we most deeply desire and must create or die. There she is — dressed, or half-dressed, in her mysterious clothes, hair a little mussed, lips just moist enough; and from going to and fro in the earth, and from walking up and down in it — the real earth, and not just the enchanted fragment of it that blazes in the longing mind to furnish her setting — she becomes a hidden archetype to the beholder rendered godlike by her presence: his possession and promise, soulless and soulful at the same time, receding, flashing up with terrible certainty at the most inopportune times that she then makes opportune. Behind her are real women, giving to the ideal the substance it requires from the lived world, and serving to make more powerful and imperious those all-powerful creatures of the depths of our being, the slaves of our needs who enslave us. We have seen her in actual beds, and seen her satisfactions taking place hiddenly, deep in the body, from outward signs so powerful and intimate that we know, with awe and gratitude, that we could never attain anything of like consequence, or even approach it. We leave her sleeping, and retire to the center of the mind, where she has taken a new dimension, another hairdo, another set of magic lingerie. We love her there in another one of her endless changes, and wonder when she will come true again, taking on the mortal and identifying flesh without which all ideals die, as a real woman, perhaps not yet encountered, unhooks her bra with the strange motion that only women have ever mastered, smiling with infinite complicity.”–James Dickey
[via whiskey river]
A Word About Holiness
Holiness comes by holy deeds,
Not starving flesh of daily needs.–Shaikh Saadi
Emotional Teething
I was smitten by the picture the words below created for me; I like the image of all of us being in one boat. I feel like laughing a little at our haplessness. In fact, reading that caused me to glance up to the bulletin board above my desk, where I have a Far Side cartoon pinned. The cartoon shows a bunch of men and horses thrown into a messy heap, with the sheriff saying to a man beside it: “And so you just threw everything together? …Mathews, a posse is something you have to organize.”
I leave my classes with this vast sense of expansion, a widening of my perceptions of how I live, how I fit into the larger picture of humanity. From King Lear to astronauts to the builder of the Brooklyn Bridge to Pavlov and his dogs, we are all in the same flimsy boat, struggling for survival on the ocean of things that living heaves at us, and what we heap upon ourselves. I see how it is not *my* pain, but *the* pain of being alive, of struggling to live in a way that is meaningful and impactful and sometimes, even a little fun.
–Katherine Turner, DatingGod
We are ludicrous. And yet, because of that, endearing.
I’m Gonna Sit Right Down And Write Myself A Letter
I’m gonna sit right down and write myself a letter
And make believe it came from you
I’m gonna write words, oh, so sweet
They’re gonna knock me off my feet
A lotta kisses on the bottom, I’ll be glad I’ve got ’em…–by Joe Young
Have you ever yearned to hear certain words? Have you wished someone would tell you wonderful things about you, or encourage you, but no one does? Perhaps you’re troubled and you wish someone would write thoughtfully about your plight, communicating her understanding and providing some insight. People don’t read minds, though. Many folks are very absorbed in their own daily concerns; their attention isn’t attuned to others. Often, what we most wish to hear from someone else is an echo from childhood. Perhaps you didn’t receive a lot of praise or empathetic listening. You might have grown up under a barrage of abuse, neglect, and judgment. Or, you might have come from a loving and demonstrative family, but you’ve discovered that no one can ever have too much of caring expression.
When I prepared to move from Syracuse to Austin in 1994, I was scared. The move involved leaving behind a world I’d known for 31 years. It was a journey of 1800 miles. I was moving “cold” in that I had no job waiting for me, no living arrangements set up (other than a temporary one with my brother). My car was paid for, but I still had some bills, and only about $2000 in savings. Austin’s population was about four times greater than my hometown; it was a much bigger city. The cost of living was twice as high as I was accustomed to.
Before I left, I got an idea. I meditated on my fears until I understood what they represented, and then I wrote letters to myself, sent in care of my brother. I wrote several letters, telling myself that things would be okay, describing my strengths, expressing hope and providing practical advice. I wrote these as if I were writing to a friend. I signed them from Katharos, which is the Greek root word for my name. When I had arrived, they waited in a small stack on my brother’s dining table. I was comforted just to see them. Since I wrote them several months in advance, I didn’t really remember what they said. So in the following weeks, as I located an apartment, learned to navigate the city (new routes and crazy drivers), and sought work, I would open one of these letters when I felt especially vulnerable. I wasn’t homesick at all. But this was a huge transition, and as good as it was, it was also scary. I re-read these whenever my heart needed a boost.
This week, take time to be quietly with yourself. Explore your heart and mind; think about your past, your current life, your future. Listen for whispers of issues unresolved, hurts ignored, nagging fears, criticism that’s destructive. Whatever comes up, make a quick note. Let time pass, and then spend time considering these concerns, fears, disappointments, and losses. How would you respond to a friend? Write a letter (or several) that attentively and compassionately responds to these issues. Choose a different name as the letter writer, if you wish–this is from your inner wisdom. And then (this is important) put it in an envelope, address, stamp, and mail it. For a longer span between writing and receiving, send it to someone else and ask them to mail it to you (use an SASE to ensure cooperation). When you get the letter, listen to your soul; it will tell you when it needs some extra love, and then you will have this to read.
Little Breadcrumbs
Ah, the joy of following link to link on the web… it leads to some intriguing sites. An excerpt from one (can be found in the FAQ):
Why should I spend time reading your opinions when I could be doingÂ…?
Why arenÂ’t you? Why arenÂ’t you doing what you would rather be doing? Why arenÂ’t you doing what you should be doing? Is it because you do not know what it is? Why are you searching for something that does not exist? Why do you insist on believing that truth is a thing? Is it because you are afraid to be alone? You must be entertained by some action, some thought, some hope or desire. Learn how to want nothing. That is as close as I get to preaching. Learn how to want nothing.
–Giustin Durall, Swan Sangha
I’ll be stopping by for more. Most definitely.
[found via Cup of Chicha]
The Reflection At Several Removes
Keeping a journal served to make me feel more real, in the same way that a mirror does. An admiration. It provided me with a reassuringly structured, narrative meta-self that cohered and made sense. It relieved the claustrophobia, the loneliness, of simply experiencing myself. It projected me outward, as in projectile vomiting, as in being too full of myself, as in having swallowed myself whole. It transformed me into an artifact in page after page of writing and rewriting, as if I were a tree continually shedding and regrowing its leaves.
There’s something of this in public writing, too, a tawdry little psychodrama that goes on behind the text. My poems range from the frankly confessional to the impersonal. But having my words read is a little like being seen, being reflected in the mirror of the reader’s eye. But at several removes. Like eye contact filtered through two pairs of dark glasses, or bounced off the surface of an intervening moon. The text is an emissary, a surrogate I send out into the world to do my dirty work. It’s my bag man.
Reading and Writing (No ‘Rithmetic)
I’ve put together a few links of reading and writing resources that I’ve found interesting or useful. They are also installed in the side bar, but I wanted to introduce these resources directly.
It’s A Small World
Oh, I know that’s trite. Trite, but true.
I belong to an Internet community called Orkut. When I learned we were moving to this area, I joined some communities, such as the South Bay Area community, and sent a message, a call for information. I was open to whatever advice people wanted to give a newbie. Well, a very nice man named George was among those responding, and I liked his warmth. I read his profile and thought, “This is a neat person!” So I extended an invitation to become friends, which he accepted. Granted, he hardly knows me, but in these communities the concept of friend is defined loosely.
Anyhow, during the two visits I’ve had with Tish, she has spoken highly — nay, raved — about her friend George. He is so cool that he danced with her to Leonard Cohen. (I don’t know about you, but most men in my life have demurred at any suggestion of dancing, so any man who will boogie is wonderful indeed.)
Her enthusiasm about George sparked my curiosity, so I went to his blog. And wouldn’t you know, it’s the very same George! (Insert a quote from the Bugs Bunny cartoon where Hugo the Abominable Snowman finds Bugs and says “I will love him and hug him and pet him and squeeze him and I will call him George.)
A brief perusal of George’s blog provided some advice on how Movies are cheaper than therapy or pills. Below is an excerpt of his take on a movie that’s been hot in my little circle.
A. and I did get to see “What the Bleep Do We Know,” which annoyed the shit out of me. (Repetition of the phrase “quantum physics” by a slew of experts and special effects to describe peptides’ and hormones’ effects on humans doesn’t help. Biting the pacing of “The Matrix,” railing against addiction/overprescription of anti-anxiety/SSRI drugs and using a leaden overlay of story doesn’t help. Use of a Magic Negro with a basketball to explain superpositioning and a third-eye-touching shaman to explain how Native Americans learned how to see Columbus’ ships really, really, really doesn’t help.
Thank you, George. You’ve saved me some time. I owe you!
A Reminder
A hundred times a day I remind myself that my inner and outer life depend on the labors of other people, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the full measure I have received and am still receiving.
–Albert Einstein
