Love is never the poorer for being accompanied by wisdom. It is not harmed by being denied a crown. The agonies we endure and inflict in the name of love come from making love bear too heavy a weight, from recklessly heaping our ambitions, fears, desires, and loneliness on top of another person — another who is as changeable as we. It is natural to form attachments to other people, but the pain produced from these attachments will vary according to our wisdom and maturity. If we see nothing higher at all and plunge thoughtlessly into the conflict of gaining and losing, we will surely suffer, but if we keep the ideals of the Dhamma before us, peacefully contemplating the transcience of things, we will ride more securely over the waves of fortune.

–Bhikkhu Nyanasobhano, Landscapes of Wonder