{"id":9958,"date":"2019-09-12T09:19:03","date_gmt":"2019-09-12T16:19:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/?p=9958"},"modified":"2026-01-21T16:13:46","modified_gmt":"2026-01-22T00:13:46","slug":"middle-school","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/2019\/09\/12\/middle-school\/","title":{"rendered":"Middle School"},"content":{"rendered":"

Listening to my daughter talk about her feelings and the dynamics of kid interaction at school, I realize the following:<\/p>\n

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  1. Middle school is “Lord of the Flies” harsh even when it’s a good school;\n
  2. People can be really judgmental, including my kid;\n
  3. A middle schooler wants more than anything to be accepted; the hardest thing to do is to befriend someone who is an “outcast,” because you risk your own social safety;\n
  4. I suck at listening, despite being a psychotherapist (psycho therapist?);\n
  5. All my childhood wounds are activated;\n
  6. I have to WORK REALLY HARD to keep my mouth shut, my heart open, and to accept I do not have control over this.<\/ol>\n

    BEING PRESENT with someone else’s suffering, especially when that someone is the most precious treasure of my life, is the hardest soul task I’ve encountered.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Listening to my daughter talk about her feelings and the dynamics of kid interaction at school, I realize the following: Middle school is “Lord of the Flies” harsh even when it’s a good school; People can be really judgmental, including my kid; A middle schooler wants more than anything to be accepted; the hardest thing […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[34,31,219],"tags":[280,278,266,222,279],"class_list":["post-9958","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-motherhood","category-social-science","category-spirit","tag-adolescence","tag-bullying","tag-education","tag-motherhood","tag-school"],"post_mailing_queue_ids":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9958","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9958"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9958\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9960,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9958\/revisions\/9960"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9958"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9958"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9958"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}