{"id":6970,"date":"2012-01-19T21:27:55","date_gmt":"2012-01-20T05:27:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/?p=6970"},"modified":"2026-01-21T16:32:07","modified_gmt":"2026-01-22T00:32:07","slug":"boundaries-and-respect","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/2012\/01\/19\/boundaries-and-respect\/","title":{"rendered":"Boundaries and Respect"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p>Email is one of the few private spaces left in this hyper-sharing age. Sam Biddle at Gizmodo says, &#8220;This isn&#8217;t about having something to hide \u2014 it&#8217;s about keeping meaningful boundaries in an era when there are verrrrry few. We all need whatever scraps of privacy we have left, and your email is just that.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Trust is an important bedrock for any relationship, but this isn&#8217;t trust. This is mutually assured trust destruction. Intimacy comes from sharing select private information with people, not giving them keys to your privacy kingdom.<\/p>\n<p>When you share your password with someone, you open yourself up to the obvious downsides suggested by the Times. But you\u2019re not just violating your own privacy, you&#8217;re violating that of everyone you correspond with. People send an email to your account assuming you&#8217;re the only one who will see it. They realize there&#8217;s a risk you might share the news with significant others, friends, family, or a random stranger on the bus, but there&#8217;s a reasonable assumption that you don&#8217;t have someone else reading your email.<\/p>\n<p>&#8211;Kashmir Hill, <em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.forbes.com\/sites\/kashmirhill\/2012\/01\/18\/why-sharing-passwords-with-your-girlfriendboyfriend-is-a-spectacularly-bad-idea\/\">Why Sharing Passwords With Your Girlfriend\/Boyfriend Is A Spectacularly Bad Idea<\/a><\/em>, Forbes<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Email is one of the few private spaces left in this hyper-sharing age. Sam Biddle at Gizmodo says, &#8220;This isn&#8217;t about having something to hide \u2014 it&#8217;s about keeping meaningful boundaries in an era when there are verrrrry few. We all need whatever scraps of privacy we have left, and your email is just that.&#8221; [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[48,30,14],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6970","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-community","category-quotes","category-technology"],"post_mailing_queue_ids":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6970","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6970"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6970\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11885,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6970\/revisions\/11885"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6970"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6970"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6970"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}