{"id":497,"date":"2004-07-29T12:30:36","date_gmt":"2004-07-29T20:30:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/2004\/07\/29\/tears-of-relief-and-grief\/"},"modified":"2026-01-21T16:20:07","modified_gmt":"2026-01-22T00:20:07","slug":"tears-of-relief-and-grief","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/2004\/07\/29\/tears-of-relief-and-grief\/","title":{"rendered":"Tears of Relief and Grief"},"content":{"rendered":"

One month ago I put out the word that one of my cats needed a new home<\/a>. Her fragile mental state made us concerned that she wouldn’t weather the transition, and we learned we were only allowed to have two cats in our new abode.<\/p>\n

I received numerous comments and emails<\/a> (some rather mean and judgemental) and lots of advice (some helpful, some not). People in my community spread the word. At last, Zoë has a new home. A friend whom I supervised for practicum volunteered this morning. We spoke at length about the transition (she has three cats right now) and she’s committed to helping Zoë integrate into a new home.<\/p>\n

I’ll bring her over tomorrow evening. As soon as I hung up I told my fiancé and then promptly burst into tears. I’m relieved and deeply grateful that CN will take her. I know she will give Zoë a good home. I’m sad about saying good-bye. I’m leaving behind so many loved ones. <\/p>\n

Of course, the tears are also prompted by other stressors too. Our realtor visited us yesterday and we learned that the market isn’t so good for selling. We bought in 2000 at the peak, and since then our house assessment has decreased. We’ll be lucky to sell it for the balance of the loan; we certainly won’t reap any profit or recoup the down payment. <\/p>\n

Then this morning the moving company sent someone to assess our belongings. We’re divesting a lot of furniture, and I’ve given up a number of books already, but it seems we may be over the 8000 pound limit that the employer will pay for. We’re waiting to hear how much more we’ll have to pay out of pocket for the extra weight (we’re about 3000 pounds over). This move is costly, with lots of contingent expenses, even though it’s being paid for. (We’ll have people come pack<\/em> us, a luxury I’ve never enjoyed before.) If the company had not offered a full relocation package, we wouldn’t be moving, that’s certain.<\/p>\n

In any case, I thank the CN for her generosity and compassion. And I’m going to focus only on the next task at hand, lest my head explode.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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