{"id":2099,"date":"2007-11-03T14:18:57","date_gmt":"2007-11-03T21:18:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/2007\/11\/03\/its-all-right-to-cry\/"},"modified":"2026-01-31T21:02:26","modified_gmt":"2026-02-01T05:02:26","slug":"its-all-right-to-cry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/2007\/11\/03\/its-all-right-to-cry\/","title":{"rendered":"It&#8217;s All Right To Cry"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Bean is eight weeks old today. Amazing.<\/p>\n<p>With the exception of an hour-and-a-half on Tuesday evening, there has been little crying around here. Well, let me clarify. Bean cries, but not inconsolably. Whatever we&#8217;ve done &#8212; the hypoallergenic formula or the Zantac &#8212; seems to be working; nature is helping too, in that Bean&#8217;s digestive system is maturing. In the last seven days her intake per meal has increased from an average of 2.75 ounces to 4 ounces. Her legs are getting chubbier. She doesn&#8217;t pull away from the nipple and cry, with one exception &#8212; when she&#8217;s working on the other end of her digestive track, it seems as though she gets to a point where she can&#8217;t continue eating and she&#8217;s mad about it. I can tell the difference in the cry. <\/p>\n<p>In fact, the crying has transformed for me, or in me. I can now hear more what she&#8217;s communicating. I&#8217;m more confident in my ability to comfort or provide what she needs, and even if she just needs to cry, I&#8217;m able to simply be with her. She&#8217;s got quite a range. There&#8217;s the cry of <em>Oh! The injustice and betrayal!<\/em> that happens sometimes when she gets her medicine and we have &#8220;help&#8221; her swallow. (Tip: hold her cheeks together and blow lightly in her face. It causes a swallow reflex.) There&#8217;s the cry of <em>I do not like this, change things now!<\/em> when she&#8217;s put on her stomach for &#8220;tummy time.&#8221; She loathes that position. When she&#8217;s hungry, if we&#8217;re too stupid to realize it <em>is<\/em> hunger and we first check her diaper or offer a binky, her cry becomes angry: <em>Feed me, you dolts!<\/em> There&#8217;s the tired cry, which is whiny. She cries with inflection and nuance; when she&#8217;s upset and a binky is offered, she&#8217;ll suck mightily and moan in such a way that feels as though she&#8217;s saying, &#8220;This is just what I wanted, I&#8217;m so tired.&#8221; When she&#8217;s not crying, she also talks a lot: coos, eeps, squeaks, vowel sounds. I love having conversations with her. She <em>looks<\/em> at me now with recognition. The love-fest is mutual.<\/p>\n<p>I imagine we&#8217;ll have rocky days, but I feel more settled and able to take them in stride. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Bean is eight weeks old today. Amazing. With the exception of an hour-and-a-half on Tuesday evening, there has been little crying around here. Well, let me clarify. Bean cries, but not inconsolably. Whatever we&#8217;ve done &#8212; the hypoallergenic formula or the Zantac &#8212; seems to be working; nature is helping too, in that Bean&#8217;s digestive [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[34,16,3],"tags":[41,44,45],"class_list":["post-2099","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-motherhood","category-nature","category-science","tag-baby","tag-crying","tag-development"],"post_mailing_queue_ids":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2099","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2099"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2099\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":13805,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2099\/revisions\/13805"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2099"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2099"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kathrynpetroharper.com\/mindfullife\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2099"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}