Archive for the 'Quotes' Category

In Relationship With the Truth

Thursday, May 30th, 2019

The dharma—understanding, peering into the nature of reality—is not specific to Buddhism. The dharma is truth. And the only choice we really have is whether to try to be in relationship with the truth or to live in ignorance. There are no other choices. You have to actively engage. How did I come to be? […]

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Taking Stock

Sunday, May 26th, 2019

“Dharma practice is founded on resolve. This is not an emotional conversion, a devastating realization of the error of our ways, a desperate urge to be good, but an ongoing, heartfelt reflection on priorities, values, and purpose. We need to keep taking stock of our life in an unsentimental, uncompromising way.” — Stephen Batchelor, Buddhism […]

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Like Pearls

Wednesday, May 22nd, 2019

“After all,” Anne had said to Marilla once, “I believe the nicest and sweetest days are not those on which anything very splendid or wonderful or exciting happens but just those that bring simple little pleasures, following one another softly, like pearls slipping off a string.” –L.M. Montgomery, Anne of Avonlea

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Cognitive Dissonance in Abusive Relationships

Sunday, May 19th, 2019

Victims living in a household where there is narcissistic abuse are living in a torturous war zone, where all forms of power and control are used against them (intimidation; emotional, physical and mental abuse; isolation, economic abuse, sexual abuse, coercion etc.). The threat of abuse is always present, and it usually gets more violent and […]

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Bleeding Heart

Saturday, May 18th, 2019

Bleeding Heart My heart is bleeding. It bleeds upward and fills my mouth up with salt. It bleeds because of a city in ruins, the chair still warm from sister’s body, because it will all be irreproducible. My heart bleeds because of baby bear not finding mama bear and it bleeds to the tips of […]

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Beauty

Friday, May 17th, 2019

“Butterflies are self propelled flowers.” –Robert A. Heinlein

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Shame-Based Family

Thursday, May 16th, 2019

“If our primary caregivers are shame-based, they will act shameless and pass their toxic shame onto us. There is no way to teach self-value if one does not value oneself. Toxic shame is multigenerational. It is passed from one generation to the next. Shame-based people find other shame-based people and get married. As each member […]

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The Job of Parents

Wednesday, May 15th, 2019

“The job of parents is to model. Modeling includes how to be a man or woman; how to relate intimately to another person; how to acknowledge and express emotions; how to fight fairly; how to have physical, emotional and intellectual boundaries; how to communicate; how to cope and survive life’s unending problems; how to be […]

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Lucky

Tuesday, May 14th, 2019

“Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share: “Who has earned the right to hear my story?” If we have one or two people in our lives who can sit with us and hold space for our shame stories, and love […]

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A Living Continuation

Sunday, May 12th, 2019

“The day my mother died I wrote in my journal, “A serious misfortune of my life has arrived.” I suffered for more than one year after the passing away of my mother. But one night, in the highlands of Vietnam, I was sleeping in the hut in my hermitage. I dreamed of my mother. I […]

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