Archive for the 'Motherhood' Category

How to Handle Worksheet Homework

Thursday, August 27th, 2015

When your child greets you at the end of the school day crying, “I’m stressed! I have yesterday’s worksheet to finish and today’s and the spelling homework! I hate school!” — that is disquieting. After six hours of sitting (with 35 minutes of total recess) and doing what one is told, to end the day […]

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To Do Homework, or Not to Do Homework?

Wednesday, August 26th, 2015

It’s the beginning of the school year. Several friends on Facebook posted laments about homework and their children’s resistance. So I thought I’d write my thoughts down. Some of these were extracted from a letter I saw on someone’s blog awhile back. But first, our history of homework: In TK, the teacher assigned two double-sided […]

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The Risk of Assumption

Tuesday, August 4th, 2015

Last year in first grade, Claire adored her teacher. Her teacher was wonderful, warm, funny, and had high expectations. She loves kids. At the end of the year, though, Claire began saying that her teacher hated her. This total 180 in her perception startled me. She also said she didn’t love her teacher anymore. Claire […]

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For the Love of Math

Wednesday, April 15th, 2015

As a child, I loathed math. From the very earliest — first grade — it confounded and intimidated me. I felt stupid. My father, being an elementary teacher, sought to bolster my learning by doing flashcards for addition and subtraction. In order to perform and please him, and my teacher, I memorized the cards. I […]

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Some Knowledge

Monday, November 24th, 2014

“And so seated next to my father in the train compartment, I suddenly asked, “Father, what is sexsin?” He turned to look at me, as he always did when answering a question, but to my surprise he said nothing. At last he stood up, lifted his traveling case off the floor and set it on […]

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The Privilege

Monday, November 3rd, 2014

She lies on her side curled into a C, tucked under a fuzzy blanket. Her body radiates fever; her wan face sports bright red patches. She moans every so often. She sipped a little tomato soup. Her head aches. It hurts to chew. A whine slips out. Everything hurts, sleep won’t come. “Please come sit […]

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Lying and Defiance in Children

Wednesday, October 8th, 2014

The topic of defiance has popped up in my life in several places recently, and so today I share some reflections on it. When I did my practicum as a therapist in training, I worked at a private mental hospital. In my work with children, they would sometimes describe a home life that sounded unreal, […]

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A Love Letter to My Daughter

Monday, September 8th, 2014

Today is my daughter’s seventh birthday. Dear Claire, Happy birthday to you! Now you are seven, and you are becoming such an interesting person! I am writing this to you, and sharing it with the world, as a way to honor who you are. Like me, you are gifted with curiosity, intensity, creativity, and emotional […]

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On the Verge of Seven

Wednesday, August 27th, 2014

Sometimes I am not certain I have the fortitude of heart — the courage — to be a parent. It’s too late, of course, because I am one. Yet as Claire grows up and into her personality and the world at large, there are times when I am uncertain who she is. The little darling […]

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Baby Steps

Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

You’d think that having support from my minister, my therapist, my Zen teacher, my OA sponsor, and my personal coach, I’d be pretty damn enlightened, but no. Spiritual awakening is a process of realizing how unconscious I am much of the time. Each of these people accompany me through different facets of evolution. This morning […]

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