Overheard Yesterday

As they waited to retrieve their children from school at day’s end, a few parents were talking about their children’s Halloween costumes. One mother said her daughter didn’t want to just wear the princess costume, because it was too plain. In her story, the daughter said, “Mommy, I want you to bedazzle it!” The woman said, “Honey, I don’t know what you mean by that. What does bedazzle mean?”

The mother laughed and continued, “Then she said Oh Mommy, put some bling-bling on it, and sparkles, and make it shine!” The adults chuckled and the mother added, “Heh, little whore!”

The child to whom she referred was her kindergartner. There were preschoolers present with the parents. And I thought… who taught this little girl about “bling-bling” and dazzle? Who is the gatekeeper for exposure to these ideas? And why would any parent refer to her child this way, even in jest? I felt sad for the little girl who, by wanting what she’d been taught to want, was judged for it — by her own mother, no less.

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2 Comments on “Overheard Yesterday”

  1. Mom/Grandma Says:

    I suspect the evils of Television/DVD’s etc., etc., and Very Spare to Non-existant Maternal understanding of attitude/respect/for her child!!!

  2. acm Says:

    patriarchy in a nutshell, right there. internalized and externally inforced.