About The Unspeakable

I protect my child as much as possible. Therefore, I have chosen not to tell her about yesterday’s tragedy. At age five, she simply does not need to know. What happened is incomprehensible to me, an adult; she would only personalize the information and worry for her own safety. I cannot make the world safe, but I limit media exposure at home. If she hears about it elsewhere and asks, I will answer her questions as simply as possible keeping in mind her age and ability to understand.

Eventually she will lose her innocence, but I won’t hurry it along.

My heart aches for the children and families on whom this horror was thrust, and I pray for their solace.

Wherever you can, let children have their innocence.

There are two ways of spreading light; to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.

– Edith Wharton

advent candle

Something else to remember:

“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’ To this day, especially in times of disaster, I remember my mother’s words, and I am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers–so many caring people in this world.”

-Fred Rogers

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One Comment on “About The Unspeakable”

  1. Mom/Grandma Says:

    In the TV coverage of this tragedy a Diane Sawyer was speaking with a psychologist who strongly suggested the little ones under seven or so should be kept from the news/discussions of it; slightly older kids needed the reassurance of love, care, secure/comforting assurance of peoples basic goodness and all’s well in their own lives; teens would work it out in their own ways with volunteer actions, etc.

    I found myself agreeing deeply and saying to myself “thank God, my little ones are grown”. We, as a social civilization, need to begin to look carefully/deeply into our attitudes toward our social/theological/familial obligations and actions.