I’m dealing again with the fact that friendships are fluid; they serve for a time, and then they don’t. This is a challenge when it’s the other friend who decides to move on. It’s tempting to feel rejected, sad, angry, bitter, hurt. So I’m trying to sit with those feelings a bit — feel them, watch them, allow space to develop around them, and let them go. By dwelling in them I’ll be robbing myself of life now. I do feel a bit lonesome today, but I remind myself this will change, and that I have the ability to alter my perspective and to allow that feeling to dissipate.

Lately I’ve been preoccupied with a life transition and have been less in the loop with my playgroup. So it’s time to pick up the phone and try to arrange some dates with other mothers and their kids, and to forge some new friendships with acquaintances recently met.

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4 Comments on “Transition”

  1. gerry rosser Says:

    I came for a visit.

    After I said farewell to you, I closed down my blog, and actually deleted it.

    Couldn’t stand it.

    And I missed your pics and updates on Claire.

  2. Kathryn Says:

    Hi Gerry, good to see you again! I’ve been more sporadic than ever with posting, but I’m hoping it will pick up later this summer. 🙂

    I’m glad not all endings are endings.

  3. Nancy A. Says:

    Sending you big hug and much love. I also have experienced the loss of long time friendships and grieve that loss, but go forth as you planned. There are many new relationships waiting out there for who we are today.

  4. Siona Says:

    I loved that you used ‘fluid’ to describe friendship, when you could have just focused on the (apparent?) ending. Life flows, relationships flow, and though I have not seen you in ages (years now, and now you have this beautiful little person!) your influence still flows through my life.

    That, and those who leave always leave the gift of space. I’m sure the space above will become filled with something amazing.