The Problem With Blogging

Well first, it takes time and energy, which are increasingly scarce for me.

Second, and more importantly to me, it creates an often one-sided relationship with people. It puts people in a spectator role and removes incentive to connect directly with me, because they already know what’s up in my life.

That doesn’t provide the most fulfilling relationships for me.

I’m so exhausted that I have few words and less energy. I go to bed at 8:00 p.m., am unconscious immediately, then arise at 5:30 a.m. (or whenever Claire wakes), and feel exhausted all day. I think that the energy required to be a mother — the vigilance, the constant availability — just calls for more energy than a good night’s sleep can provide.

I have less to say, and less desire to share in the blog what little I do have to say. I may be evolving out of blogging. Or at least headed toward a hiatus.

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7 Comments on “The Problem With Blogging”

  1. marta Says:

    Well, it might discourage people from connecting directly with you, but it might give people the only opportunity to know what is going on. It’s not like I connect much with my friends who don’t blog.

    But if you need a rest–and you sound like you do–you and your blog ought to get that needed sleep.

    Sweet dreams.

  2. Barbara Says:

    I’ve really enjoyed reading your blog since I found you. I do know how demanding parenting a little one can be and understand how blogging can put demands on your time as well. I have to agree with Marta about connecting with friends. For some reason I find that it is increasingly more difficult to reach out to my friends. Hubby talks to his friends almost daily. I’m not sure what the answer is but you have to do what feels best for you and your family. Good luck with your decision.

    Peace!

  3. Mika Says:

    I hear you… Your desire may come back. Exhaustion does that: takes away desire to do anything, let alone write, or think!! A rest never hurts…

  4. gerry rosser Says:

    I get worn out just keeping up with Babycakes for a weekend!

    It is sometimes hard to come up with things to say to you other than “cute baby,” “good mommy,” and like that. Almost as a matter of course your blog became a “mommy blog,” and that is a different thing than what existed before. Not better or worse, just a different thing.

    Anyway, there is no bigger thing than nurturing a child, and your love is apparent, and uplifting.

    So, if you take a break, I’ll miss you.

  5. gerry rosser Says:

    My comments don’t seem to be showing up.

    Anyway, I’ll miss you if you go away.

    P.S. I missed getting to comment on the standing baby shot. Tell the truth, you propped her up.

  6. Kathryn Says:

    Thank you dear ones, for the TLC. 🙂

    Gerry, sometimes I think my server is slow and the comments get stuck in limbo for a little while.

    As for the standing baby, have you seen the video on Flickr? It’s a hoot! It should be visible to friends and family.

  7. donna Says:

    Well, I think we’re all evolving beyond blogging. A lot of us just don’t know quite what that is yet.

    It’s really such a very small part of our lives. For others to think they know what’s going on by reading a blog is kind of naive, really. There are a great deal of things I don’t blog about at all. It’s more of a way to track the unusual or unique events or thoughts in life to me. My blog is sometimes a diary, but rarely, sometimes spiritual, sometimes humour or just whatever strikes me as interesting at the moment. It is maybe one thousandth of the thoughts and things that happen in my life on any given day at best.

    As for being connected, those who are important to us find a way to be connected. Those who won’t make the effort are of little concern, really.