Comments on: Taken By Surprise

By: Marilyn

Marilyn — Sat, 25 Feb 2006 14:52:58 +0000

I love these sorts of moments, as painful as they can be. And it always amazes me in my own life how good I can be at masking what’s really going on by painting layers of other superficial stuff on top of it. re Fran’s comment…this is the second time in 24 hours someone has mentioned “Off the Map”…it’s sitting on our coffee table from Netflix…guess I need to watch it…

By: la peregrina

la peregrina — Sat, 25 Feb 2006 03:34:53 +0000

your ah-hah moments, painful as they are, open up the life energy.

I like that, it explains why people get so tired when it happens.

(hugs)

By: Kathryn

Kathryn — Sat, 25 Feb 2006 00:42:27 +0000

Thank you all. I did read Necessary Losses ages ago, but perhaps it would bear re-reading. And I’ll make a note of the movie.

And Pat, yes, I agree it’s good to focus on the positives. What I intended to explore in this post was how surprising the mourning process is, and how incomplete. You think you’re done and discover you’re not. I’ve been very happy of late and quite content — except regarding this Missing Object and the emotional baggage associated. It all came to a head last night; what I thought I was upset about was really something else (the list of losses). While I feel a bit wrung out, I also feel a lot of relief today for the clarity last night’s discussion provided.

By: Fran

Fran — Fri, 24 Feb 2006 18:14:56 +0000

your ah-hah moments, painful as they are, open up the life energy. You are so well read, Kathryn, but did you read Judith Viorst’s Necessary Losses ages ago? That book remains one of my favs. Your plate has been very, very full and I’m glad you are having insight. I watched Off the Map last night on DVD. I bet you would enjoy that right now, if you haven’t seen it already. Thinking of you.

By: Pat

Pat — Fri, 24 Feb 2006 17:18:12 +0000

If you were to take a paper and make two columns, the good and the bad, you have pretty well filled in the bad side.

Now, how about the good side? From what I gather, it appears you get along nicely with your husband, which is no small accomplishment.

You seem to have outlets for your creative expression, judging from your site here.

And I would just have to leave it up to you to find a couple of additional entries for the “good” side.

Best as always–

By: Imelda

Imelda — Fri, 24 Feb 2006 12:48:00 +0000

Yes, you need to sleep, and to be cossetted, and to have someone say “there, there” There, there. sleep well

By: Shirl

Shirl — Fri, 24 Feb 2006 11:22:02 +0000

{{{hugs}}}

By: Shirl

Shirl — Fri, 24 Feb 2006 11:11:46 +0000

{{{hugs}}}