Tears of Relief and Grief

One month ago I put out the word that one of my cats needed a new home. Her fragile mental state made us concerned that she wouldn’t weather the transition, and we learned we were only allowed to have two cats in our new abode.

I received numerous comments and emails (some rather mean and judgemental) and lots of advice (some helpful, some not). People in my community spread the word. At last, Zoë has a new home. A friend whom I supervised for practicum volunteered this morning. We spoke at length about the transition (she has three cats right now) and she’s committed to helping Zoë integrate into a new home.

I’ll bring her over tomorrow evening. As soon as I hung up I told my fiancé and then promptly burst into tears. I’m relieved and deeply grateful that CN will take her. I know she will give Zoë a good home. I’m sad about saying good-bye. I’m leaving behind so many loved ones.

Of course, the tears are also prompted by other stressors too. Our realtor visited us yesterday and we learned that the market isn’t so good for selling. We bought in 2000 at the peak, and since then our house assessment has decreased. We’ll be lucky to sell it for the balance of the loan; we certainly won’t reap any profit or recoup the down payment.

Then this morning the moving company sent someone to assess our belongings. We’re divesting a lot of furniture, and I’ve given up a number of books already, but it seems we may be over the 8000 pound limit that the employer will pay for. We’re waiting to hear how much more we’ll have to pay out of pocket for the extra weight (we’re about 3000 pounds over). This move is costly, with lots of contingent expenses, even though it’s being paid for. (We’ll have people come pack us, a luxury I’ve never enjoyed before.) If the company had not offered a full relocation package, we wouldn’t be moving, that’s certain.

In any case, I thank the CN for her generosity and compassion. And I’m going to focus only on the next task at hand, lest my head explode.

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3 Comments on “Tears of Relief and Grief”

  1. Lynda Says:

    I didn’t see anything mean, judgemental or any stated or implied name calling about you being a bad such as you being a horrible person or owner in those comments linked to.

    Anyway, wonderful that you found your kitty a home!

  2. Kathryn Says:

    No, they came via email mostly. And in the second post, I didn’t allow for comments, because in the first post one of the comments left felt unhelpful (and then I closed comments) — not outrightly hostile, but containing advice to the point of verging on judgemental. E.g., asking me if I’m giving her up because she is “less loving” than my other two. When in fact, all of them are very low-interaction, independent cats with their own minds. I didn’t appreciate the presumptuous question.

  3. Bill Says:

    Glad you found Zoe a new home – A. and I had been debating whether it would be good to bring her into a house here with a pretty domineering older cat (A.’s cat that she’s had for more than ten years), which is why I hadn’t gotten back to you yet (along with being sick on and off for the past couple of weeks).

    For us I think it would have boiled down to “we’ll take her if there’s no other option, if nothing else to save a beautiful companion.”